Comments on: Played Like a Fish

By: Spyre

Spyre — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 04:34:27 +0000

Hi Robin

I enjoyed this insight into your understanding of yourself. Now I see how you can be so tolerant of people that I dismiss so quickly. Wish I could be as patient!

Call me cold hearted, but if a person is intent on causing hurt, I feel little remorse in evicting them from mind and sight. No matter how amiable they may be at other times…once that evil side is shown, I can’t forget its existence.

Which is wronger? I rono!

Spyre

By: G.M.

G.M. — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 12:01:48 +0000

Hello Robin,

Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.

Did the person deceive you, or did you deceive yourself? It is a hard question to answer.

I have experienced something that I’m reminded of when I read this entry and in my situation I think the answer to that question is ‘yes’. Both are possible.

In some ways people are complex individuals, in other ways we’re incredibly simple beings. I’m sorry your friend let you down

I have a favourite quote I swing about every now and then, which is apparently from Mr George Washington:

“Friendship is a plant of slow growth and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.”

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 08:41:59 +0000

Ahh You know it’s funny. Here I am up at 1 am thinking of the same thing. (After finishing the fool’s fate I was left in an emotional fervor that just couldn’t be contained.) Like you said in your novels; People are never who they truly are. Every moment of our lives we don a mask and expect other’s to like us and accept who we are without even knowing us truly. It really saddens me that humanity as a whole has fallen to such a faithless stupor. No one trusts anyone else deep down and we always end up hurting others with our own selfish motives. That being said, I appreciate that there are still people like yourself. It takes courage to take someone at face value and most of all to believe that there are still people out there with honor. So to answer your question: it’s never your fault for trusting someone and him/her betraying you. Don’t ever lose hope. Just as the fool, keep on loving regardless of flaws and unreturned ardor. It’s the only way this world will ever become better. ~gavri’el

By: Robin Hobb

Robin Hobb — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 05:52:54 +0000

well, what I’m pondering here is (in one way at least) did a person deceive me, or did I deceive myself?

How much of the disappointment should be put right at my own doorstep?

Robin

By: Farseer

Farseer — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 05:51:10 +0000

And here was I, thinking that song got your attention simply due to the ‘cat’ reference in the title !

Still, you have reflected my own often-thought thoughts exactly here and, while it’s always a sad day when we make such discoveries, I am glad to hear you aren’t going to let it affect your Hobb-ness !!

By: Jute

Jute — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 20:19:22 +0000

From the glimpses you share of your life, I’ve always thought you were a good person. I’m sorry that someone lied to you. Obviously I don’t know the circumstances and how much was involved.

I always wonder why someone does this kind of thing. Do they hate their life so much they have to make up a new one? Are they desperate for your friendship and fear rejection of who they really are? Or do they just have some twisted idea of what’s acceptable to do to others?

By: Christian

Christian — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 15:25:43 +0000

I think that ‘real’ people are seldom as coherent as your characters. Rather good people, rather not so good people. Also, regretfully, rather petty

By: Veronica

Veronica — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 07:09:56 +0000

Maybe that’s why you’re so good at character creation too.

Sorry that your friend wasn’t what they seemed to be.